How to Curb Your Judgements.

I’ve learned that most of my problems came from controlling situations and people. Even though, I thought it was for the betterment of the situation, it was really just to make me feel secure. Why would I need to feel secure by controlling or manipulating? Simply because I wasn‘t secure within myself.

If you are feeling the same, be glad; you aren’t alone. The issue here is the fact that we aren’t whole within. We automatically think the outside needs to be whole before the inside can feel whole. The opposite is true. When you are in control of yourself, sure of yourself and ultimately love yourself, it doesn’t matter how the outside is affecting you.

You see, a person who feels peace and love within themselves can be put in a chaotic situation and not be bothered. You understand that you can control the situation by controlling yourself. You choose your battles; you control how you react.

Also I’d like to add that compassion can help curb the judgements as well. By putting yourself in the other person’s shoes, you become unbiased to the situation. This part can be hard because the ego wants to step in, destroy and bring justice; instead rebuild or let go, to bring justice. Ask yourself, if what you believe about the person or situation is true or assumed. If it is true, and not assumed, then really contemplate on whether or not you have behaved in the same manner. Finally, question if you have done this to yourself. Whatever is projected outside is because it is dwelling within.