Learned Helplessness

When we experience a traumatic event and we don't know how to get out of it, we learn how to feel helpless. We might carry this feeling of inability along to other occurrences in our life. For example, if you're in a situation of emotional abuse and you know you need to get out, but you feel you have no where to turn, stop and ask yourself if that's true. Sometimes we accept the situation, but continue to be involved in it instead of making a plan to leave. Doubts and anxiety begin to form and we lack the courage because we learned, from the past, that there is no use, no help, no support and no understanding for us. Many of these low vibe feelings keep us from seeking the help and support that is, indeed, available to free us from that situation of abuse.

What we need to do is undo what we've learned. We need to learn helpfulness. The first step is believing in ourselves; believing that we will succeed if we get out. You know, sometimes we make excuses as to why we keep allowing the abuse. We justify the pain, instead of healing and moving away from it.

Its so difficult though. We don't know exactly what's ahead, but if we change our mindset to one that says anything is better than this hole we find ourselves in, its the first step. The second is to make a plan and not allowing ourselves to fall through with it. Take the necessary actions to get the information you need to convince yourself that you are not helpless. Convince yourself that you are stronger than you know. Once you take action, be patient and know that things will work out for you.

Courage, keep your head up, and move forward like everything is going to go as you planned.